Bridging the Gap

 

Victim/Creator is fundamental to how we live our lives.  Do we approach life from a creative point of view where we are aware of our environment and our own internal state so we can make better choices, or are we victims blaming others for our actions and reacting to situations without making choices.  


                                                Key Points


                 1. Use I language

                        - speak for yourself to increase clarity and ownership.

                        - I think ..., I feel..., I want...

                 2. Stay as much as you can in a creative position rather then

                        becoming a victim.

                 3. Become more aware of yourself (thoughts, feeling & wants) to

                        make better choices.

 

When I realize that I make choices in every aspect of my life, stress reduces, I’m more productive and happier because I’m in control my life.  Remember motivation is in the creative process.  Although, at times it may seem like I’m a victim, I always have a choice - even when it is one that I may not like.  With awareness, I can choose to be angry, afraid, happy or sad.  No longer can I say “You made me mad”.  I may be influenced by what you said or did, but ultimately, my emotion are my choice just as my thoughts are.

2. Victim/Creator (7:38)